(Also, the travelogue corresponding the following is available here : http://romancingtheroads.blogspot.in/2013/01/all-in-days-work.html). If one may avail the privilege of leisure time, and an NPA against time-asset would hurt as bad on the balance-sheet, read that prior to going forth)
Well, let me allow myself a break as this weekend was supposed to be one. It hasn't proven to be anything of the sort thus but entirely otherwise. Oh, except the few surprise visitors!
Been reading Suitable Boy- by Vikram Seth. Typically a penchant for a long literary pieces, this has been an absorbing and fulfilling read. Also, with such works, the space of it all lets the character's 'devlop' enough to narrate or share a phase of their existence. That is what it takes to build the connect & time-space needed to relate and get concerned to what they might undergo in the said proceedings. Short stories, especially the one that have a motive - are more like one night-stands. Impressions way to 'smart' & fleeting. Stench for a purpose doesn't help either - since it doesn't feel like they "just-happened" else they wouldn't have such vulgar and explicit orientation to motive(not generalizing the genre as it is, but somehow most experience imbue the palette for the rest far beyond their own first impression would merit by themselves). Again, don't wish to deliberate to make the logic sound-proof rather, more as a matter of preference as say,in matters of choice amongst perfumes.
On a side-note, it not in line with the spirit of the article to deliberate the merits of the arguments, just as a mental-note as to my state of preferences at so-&-so instant in time.
Perhaps quite touched, contrary to my usual 'reading-self', with the demise of Mrs. Mahesh Kapoor. That timid and obliging lady, compromising her innocent(innocuous?) yearning in face of a more sensible/logical front - wishing to see Ramlila or episode where she gets rebuked on presuming her husband re-joining Congress etc. Also, same sequence got me thinking about the kind of affection it usually draws for people like Maan, who have been honest to their emotions, from every faction - age , religion, etc. Its a kind of personality traits that makes person so amicable that it draws in all & sundry, more forgiving are people to lapses of such people. Lets not mix the two - Mrs Kapoor, who was rendered respect(rather a weak term - rather ,may be ,an affection of sorts) by so many people who were affected by her even in backdrop of a Cabinet Minister! The author has so beautifully wrote an eulogy that she would remain alive in the her dauther's music, son's ailment, the un-rung brass-bell, husband's regret etc(last two perhaps most touching). Now about Maan, her son, the frivolous one, the one that succumbs to temptations of all kind, but one that usually is most acclaimed and interesting of the siblings. People love these personality of happy go lucky. Are most forgiving to their lapses. Is it their honesty or transparency that make them likable?Is it the same fallings people see within themselves & relate to or feel more comfortable/confident about their own self? As against, say Pran, who has been caring-controlled-steady , his description lack the charm or an attempt at highlighting his 'strengths' by even the author. Perhaps its even the reflection of the societal standing. That is the state of affairs for the contrast in reception of the two personalities. Latter struggles for 'exactly-love' from even his own wife while Maan has all sorts of 'encounters'.
Now a totally different kind of reflection - about certain things you may be relatively better(diplomatically correct as to avert allegation on trespassing civilian code of humility) at & might have been extending it to lend a helping hand to people around you. But after a while, when you can no longer afford to continue, is it inconsiderate of people at receiving end to feel disappointed on account of continuing similar expectation on presumption of shirking response gesture? or is it just the non-alignment of expectations. Whatever that is how should one go about bridging the gap in such changing time when going vocal yet sympathetic doesn't do the trick! Regardless, I not-so-recently received an advice as not to do things that make you incrementally unhappy by going against your grain, whatsoever be the case or whosoever be the person. This has been helpful, mostly ;) taking into account some instances of relenting the ground for the privileged few.
Well, there was this word regarding Mrs. Kapoor about being "circuitously encouraging" - Perhaps one always needs such a friend - who may not be as bright , may not be as brilliant to understand the cause of perplexity but be undauntedly encouraging & of all things 'listen' to your crib. Sometimes we don't need advice on what's right to do, we need a patient ear & a strong shoulder. We all have developed our survival mechanism over time(& may also know the righteous act), they may not be optimal or profound, but they have worked for us thus & we are still talking!!
As I write this off, another thing I need to make a note is about coherency of thoughts. While writing i have the leisure of time to find a sequence of words to put the idea across. Talking upfront puts a stop-watch to paraphrasing a sub-concious thought process, which may need a lot of effort & would be the most sough after things one would like to engage in right away Its more on the subject my thoughts dwell upon at the moment & hovering around which my deliberative self delves. Thus to remove it to the chain of ideas which lead it up to here would be removing it from its sweet-spot & would kill the moment for such musing leaving that bitter after taste of unfulfilled fruition ;). Thinking of it a very senior and acclaimed Prof at my college tutorial once said after stating the problem statement on the green-board, that he needed a sheet of paper to think over the problem since we had come to realise that Vertical surfaces are more difficult for him to think over than horizontal ones. As scientific & logical it may now appear, we should be more appreciative(not tolerant) of others' incongruities.
PS : Regret that this post has been build around a book that many of you may have not read. But I just need to knot certain ideas around an anchor & this happened to be the one at the moment. Please bear with my limited resourcefulness.
Well, let me allow myself a break as this weekend was supposed to be one. It hasn't proven to be anything of the sort thus but entirely otherwise. Oh, except the few surprise visitors!
Been reading Suitable Boy- by Vikram Seth. Typically a penchant for a long literary pieces, this has been an absorbing and fulfilling read. Also, with such works, the space of it all lets the character's 'devlop' enough to narrate or share a phase of their existence. That is what it takes to build the connect & time-space needed to relate and get concerned to what they might undergo in the said proceedings. Short stories, especially the one that have a motive - are more like one night-stands. Impressions way to 'smart' & fleeting. Stench for a purpose doesn't help either - since it doesn't feel like they "just-happened" else they wouldn't have such vulgar and explicit orientation to motive(not generalizing the genre as it is, but somehow most experience imbue the palette for the rest far beyond their own first impression would merit by themselves). Again, don't wish to deliberate to make the logic sound-proof rather, more as a matter of preference as say,in matters of choice amongst perfumes.
On a side-note, it not in line with the spirit of the article to deliberate the merits of the arguments, just as a mental-note as to my state of preferences at so-&-so instant in time.
Perhaps quite touched, contrary to my usual 'reading-self', with the demise of Mrs. Mahesh Kapoor. That timid and obliging lady, compromising her innocent(innocuous?) yearning in face of a more sensible/logical front - wishing to see Ramlila or episode where she gets rebuked on presuming her husband re-joining Congress etc. Also, same sequence got me thinking about the kind of affection it usually draws for people like Maan, who have been honest to their emotions, from every faction - age , religion, etc. Its a kind of personality traits that makes person so amicable that it draws in all & sundry, more forgiving are people to lapses of such people. Lets not mix the two - Mrs Kapoor, who was rendered respect(rather a weak term - rather ,may be ,an affection of sorts) by so many people who were affected by her even in backdrop of a Cabinet Minister! The author has so beautifully wrote an eulogy that she would remain alive in the her dauther's music, son's ailment, the un-rung brass-bell, husband's regret etc(last two perhaps most touching). Now about Maan, her son, the frivolous one, the one that succumbs to temptations of all kind, but one that usually is most acclaimed and interesting of the siblings. People love these personality of happy go lucky. Are most forgiving to their lapses. Is it their honesty or transparency that make them likable?Is it the same fallings people see within themselves & relate to or feel more comfortable/confident about their own self? As against, say Pran, who has been caring-controlled-steady , his description lack the charm or an attempt at highlighting his 'strengths' by even the author. Perhaps its even the reflection of the societal standing. That is the state of affairs for the contrast in reception of the two personalities. Latter struggles for 'exactly-love' from even his own wife while Maan has all sorts of 'encounters'.
Now a totally different kind of reflection - about certain things you may be relatively better(diplomatically correct as to avert allegation on trespassing civilian code of humility) at & might have been extending it to lend a helping hand to people around you. But after a while, when you can no longer afford to continue, is it inconsiderate of people at receiving end to feel disappointed on account of continuing similar expectation on presumption of shirking response gesture? or is it just the non-alignment of expectations. Whatever that is how should one go about bridging the gap in such changing time when going vocal yet sympathetic doesn't do the trick! Regardless, I not-so-recently received an advice as not to do things that make you incrementally unhappy by going against your grain, whatsoever be the case or whosoever be the person. This has been helpful, mostly ;) taking into account some instances of relenting the ground for the privileged few.
Well, there was this word regarding Mrs. Kapoor about being "circuitously encouraging" - Perhaps one always needs such a friend - who may not be as bright , may not be as brilliant to understand the cause of perplexity but be undauntedly encouraging & of all things 'listen' to your crib. Sometimes we don't need advice on what's right to do, we need a patient ear & a strong shoulder. We all have developed our survival mechanism over time(& may also know the righteous act), they may not be optimal or profound, but they have worked for us thus & we are still talking!!
As I write this off, another thing I need to make a note is about coherency of thoughts. While writing i have the leisure of time to find a sequence of words to put the idea across. Talking upfront puts a stop-watch to paraphrasing a sub-concious thought process, which may need a lot of effort & would be the most sough after things one would like to engage in right away Its more on the subject my thoughts dwell upon at the moment & hovering around which my deliberative self delves. Thus to remove it to the chain of ideas which lead it up to here would be removing it from its sweet-spot & would kill the moment for such musing leaving that bitter after taste of unfulfilled fruition ;). Thinking of it a very senior and acclaimed Prof at my college tutorial once said after stating the problem statement on the green-board, that he needed a sheet of paper to think over the problem since we had come to realise that Vertical surfaces are more difficult for him to think over than horizontal ones. As scientific & logical it may now appear, we should be more appreciative(not tolerant) of others' incongruities.
PS : Regret that this post has been build around a book that many of you may have not read. But I just need to knot certain ideas around an anchor & this happened to be the one at the moment. Please bear with my limited resourcefulness.
A comment would be superfluous I guess, the communication was important. Thank you for sharing.
ReplyDelete